Hand holding between boys "kissing" is sexual?

Why is hand holding between men/boys and kissing on the nose, rubbing your nose together seen as something sexual/ a signature that someone is in a relationship?

I noticed that in America if y’all see two people holding hands you would assume they were in a relationship and if you see two people kissing on the nose that it equals = sexual/romantic activity. And when you go to foreign countries and apply this logic, it rubs me the wrong way as in most cultures this is just seen as a gesture between friends.

For example in Nigeria, men or boys who are friends hold hands. It is not wrong to hold your friends hand if you’re male no one would assume you’re anything more. It is a simple common hand gesture that should not be interpreted as romantic/sexual. So if you have a Nigerian-American friend who identifies as a dude/boy and you see him holding hands with another dude you shouldn’t assume they are in a romantic relationship as they could just be friends! Hand holding is not sexual period.

Putting noses against each other in Arabs is a showing of friendship or to simply say you’re peers, there was this girl who saw two arab men rubbing noses together and thought they were in a relationship in turned out one of the men were already married and they were simply best friend. And it rubbed me the wrong way how she applied western/American ideals in other cultures/countries. Like I get it because she was born in America and all but it still rubbed me the wrong way you know? https://www.thenationalnews.com/arts-culture/ask-ali-why-rubbing-noses-is-more-than-just-a-custom-1.366159 https://www.thenationalnews.com/arts-culture/ask-ali-gulf-region-arabs-respect-elders-by-rubbing-noses-1.346225 http://fatimaabbadi.blogspot.com/2014/10/nose-kiss-how-gulf-arab-greet.html

Anyway what is something that you know is seen as acceptable in a country or culture but people often mistake it for being romantic/sexual?

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And also it is weird how hand holding is seen as feminine, it is isn’t at all.

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Not here either

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huh?

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Here it isn’t taken as a friendly thing I mean

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Like where I live I mean

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I do say I mean a lot

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Yeah that’s what I meant, In America it isn’t seen as a friendly thing but more of a romantic/sexual thing.

Same though

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Lol yeah but I’m not American
I’m saying here as well as America

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oof

lmao all this time I thought you were American lol

Though I really do hate the sexualization of kissing and hand holding.

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Mood tho
most people think I’m American. Even irl

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tbh mood
it’s… really not fair to hold the entire world to one culture’s standards y’know?

also concerning affection and intimacy between men
i think the problem stems from toxic masculinity and homophobia

a lot of men are taught since they’re young that they cannot show any vulnerability because they’re men (which is some of the biggest bullsh*t i’ve heard but that’s not the point here), and so, they refrain from showing intimacy in any way, even physical
because intimacy means vulnerability, and vulnerability is something they don’t want
and yeah, holding hands isn’t that intimate, but holding onto someone is still showing a slight vulnerability

and as for homophobia
well homophobia and toxic masculinity go hand in hand (i can try to search for and link some stuff i used for a paper on the topic if anyone’s curious)
sometimes it’s not intimacy they fear, it’s appearing not cishet
and sometimes men who are in a relationship hold hands, of course
so, in fear to not be seen as cishet, these men will avoid showing ANY affection to their male friends, thus not helping the normalisation of platonic affection between men

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We kiss people on the check as a greeting and are very affectionate in my country. I’m personally not into hand holding for my own reasons but it’s not sexual.

Affection ≠ sexual. Some may consider it intimate but intimacy ≠ sexual. Also not everyone considers it intimate, it may just be a natural act.

I used to hold hands with the older kids who walked me to my mom’s class when I was younger, nothing wrong with that. When I got older we used to hold hands with the younger students to help them cross the car park/road in our school. So ???

Also not every one is allo so to assume there MUST be a sexual connotation behind such things is um… yeah.

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This is my greatest problem.

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Fr like not everyone (a) perceives and feels sexual attraction in the same way (b) feels sexual attraction. Sadly this is often forgotten or ignored :’)

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JUST TELL HER YOU LIVE IN ISRAEL DAMN IT

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U have American vibes

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Americans see any remote affection or intimacy and label it romance because in America ppl ain’t that lovey in the slightest and so any sort of emotional value is viewed as romantic love because that is the only type of love you are allowed to feel here tbh.

For America they could be a lil more open minded

As a hispanic I’ve always been taught to go around the house at a gathering to hug everyone and say hi, goodbye when you leave too! Me and my family can be so dumbfounded by the fact that in the us they’re so cold.

There’s nothing wrong with the American culture but like it kinda lacks understanding, since that’s the whole point of the whole intimacy thing in other places.

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Can you not bring words out of my mouth please

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ksdjvbhdfv SAME
i’m one of the least physical people in my friend groups but i’m still extremely touchy when compared to people in the US kdjbvhdf

facts

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