Yeah when it comes to modesty and “immodesty”, I personally think evert person should think long and hard about the reasons why they’re deciding to dress the way they are and whether or not those reasons are sexist. Like, I went through different phases of showing more and less skin, and both were for sexist reasons. If men’s gaze factors into your dress choices in any way, I think that’s an issue.
However, at the same time, I think that people underestimate the role that sexist religious conventions play in their dress choices.
Take the Catholic mantilla (head scarf) as an example. A lot of women wear it as a symbol of a woman’s meekness. I used to buy into that. When I realised it was kinda sexist, it only briefly made me stop wearing the mantilla to Church. Then I came up with my own reasons: to honour Mary as the mother or Jesus. It’s all about intentions and reasons, imo.